Child Psychology. Pedagogy Training and Children’s aggression
Published on Sunday, June 26th, 2011 at 2:58 pm and is filed under Psychological Science
In early childhood, some kids come up with their imaginary friends, talks about that make their parents be at first puzzled and then cause them the alarm. Parents should not worry - child psychology and pedagogy has well studied this phenomenon, but here’s an explanation of it that should cause parents to be more attentive to their child and his inner world.
What is the cause of imaginary friend?
Very often the cause of imaginary friend is loneliness, which the child experiences in a family where everyone works and no one has time for him. In this case, the parents just have to talk more with the child, so that he had the opportunity to talk about his experiences and feelings. And even if his talk looks messy, it is important that the little man felt that he is loved, that someone is interested to know his opinions and wants to talk with him.
Imaginary friend can not only help your child cope with emotional problems that arise. Emotional problems are usually associated with a deficit of communication, for example, when moving to another place and he loses old friends, or when the family’s second child is born, which are brought to the attention of all parents.
Imaginary friend can also play an important role in the development of his creative abilities - in fact the child will have to invent him character, behavior, opinions, speeches, etc. And in this role-playing child often copied adults’ remarks in his address, only this time they were sent to the imaginary friend. Unfortunately, listening to it is by the most shameful and sad, and it’s a good lesson for us, adults.
Sometimes a child knocks over their faults to an imaginary friend who broke the dishes, spilled water, etc. And even if it is caught red-handed, he says that someone made him do it. This can be explained by the child’s desire to save the love of parents, in spite of all their sins. In this case, child psychology and pedagogy recommend lightly to play along with the child, but to make it - together with a friend! - Clean up toys and do what is required of him.
The main thing is to understand the causes of a such behavior and help children find new, real friends. It is equally important to pay attention to him more and more often to talk to him, just listening to his stories.
It is hard when your child becomes the object of jokes, and sometimes outright bullying by their peers. Close people should not sit idly by if a baby has problems in the team, parents can help their child. At the same time to run to school with safety speeches and ”dispute” it’s just not worth it – it can only exacerbate the situation. It should be first understood the root of the troubles that come with the child.
Children differ from adults because they have no tolerance no understanding of that each person is different. Therefore, poor physical preparation, some defects in appearance, not trendy clothes or evaluation (as bad or good) can be an occasion to start baiting. To remedy this situation, you can read every essay, child psychology as a science of adults to understand on a simple everyday level. If you can eliminate the cause for which the child is teased, then you need to do it. Suppose you’ll have to spend money on fancy clothes or a basketball coach, but the child’s psychological is well worth it.
In addition, parents should praise their child, constantly, a lot, not forgetting to admire everyone, even the smallest success. Praise and support of loved ones - that’s something that will help to gain confidence in themselves. Moreover, any summary of child psychology, will give you information about that the child should be taught to communicate.
You should explain to the kid, at some point, you can keep quiet, ignore the statement and, when necessary to defend themselves and respond to the abuser. If your child is lucky to have him around good teachers, you can ask them to participate in the creation of friendship between the boys in the class. However, if the teacher does not pay any attention to intra-hassle and humiliation of individual children, then you can think about transferring the child to another class or even school.
You should not fear of action. Remember that self-confidence, sociability, ability to make friends - are the skills acquired, rather than giving birth. And parents must help the child become ”his” in the team. Let your child go to visit and invite friends over, get acquainted with their peers in the yard, maintain, understand and accept the baby as it really is - and will do well.