Marital Happiness – Step by Step Instruction
How not to Make Family Life a Torment, Dale CarnegiePublished on Friday, August 17th, 2012 at 9:07 pm and is filed under Sex and Relationships
“The main thing you need to know when marrying with your partner. What he likes and what not, what worries him, and what is his weak spot. Ignorance of these basic things is dangerous.”
When in our house there is a new washing machine or vacuum cleaner, we first read the instructions for its operation, and the more complicated is the thing, the longer it takes to study it. When people get married, then only a few begin to explore the psychology of the family, until problems arise. Dale Carnegie, the famous American educator, son of a farmer, gives universal advice on how not to make family life a torment.
You are married, because you live here and now, do not let in your new life the ghosts of a past love. Do not worry about what you do, appreciate what you have. Do not worry about nothing, life is too short. Forget about them. Be able to see the positive side of each event and you will find the way to marital happiness.
Don’t try to change your partner
Under no circumstances should you attempt to remake the partner, the temptation to do this is very common, especially among women. Do not seek to alter the partner, be a suitable partner yourself, because the king will be only with a queen.
One of the most important conditions getting the marital happiness us to avoid hostility and conflicts. Do not impose your opinions. Try to look at the situation from the perspective of another person. Try that love, desire of someone else’s happiness were not just a desire. Be attentive and grateful to your family.
Ask questions instead of giving orders. In the family, no one likes orders. Do not criticize and constructively take criticism. Do not forget praise! Praise the partner for everything, even the most modest success, and “be at the same time sincere in your acceptance and generous in your praises.” Be kind. Remember that your spouse shall have the right to personal property. Do not waste the family budget. Strive as best as possible “to perform for granted.”
Know how to listen
Suspiciousness destroys love and so the marital happiness. Make a list of things that you care about, a list of actions you can take, decide and act. Provide each other tokens of appreciation and learn how to listen. All we have is the result of our thoughts. We programmed them. Think positive – life will improve.
In the combat between man and woman lose both, vanity is not the best fighting shape of the relationship between the spouses. Do not be vain! Family and work have to live together.
Often, an excess of free time leads to problems. Down with the free time – read a book! From all the nervous experiences come all the diseases, in crisis situations stop worrying, take a look at the facts and take action. Profession and Work are the best medicine experience.
Deal with your own shortcomings, and if you do not change them by force turn all the minuses into pluses and be brave! Learn to love yourself in the way nature intended you to be. Avoid fatigue, relax, and you’ll look good.