Why People Want Children?

Why People want children? Is this because the animal instinct?

Talking about all the people at once would be extremely imprudent – it is necessary to understand that putting everyone on the same shelf does not work. You can only talk about the general trends observed in this matter.

The biological instinct of procreation – is not proven … (10% maximum). In the animal nature such an instinct, of course, exists. In human, it probably also had to be preserved, at least as biological inheritance. But first, on a background of general self-centereness (mind-centrism) the influence of this instinct is negligible, and secondly, who can honestly say that is really able to distinguish the voice of instinct, from his quirky voice of reason?

Social instinct

Social instinct of procreation -has 50% at least. To want kids is “accepted.” This is a social program, seen in every person. Perhaps it is based on the very elusive biological instinct, but the meaning of this program is not in the survival of the human race, but in the survival of the society, and that, you know, are very different things.

This includes adherence to tradition and common ideas about what happiness is, what is family, and what’s the point of life on this earth. This is the intellectual trappings, which, among other things, suppresses a biological instinct. The more there is rationality, the less there is naturalness.

The child as a toy for parents

The child, as a tool to manipulate – many women love this game and many men are caught in it. Although it happens that fathers have taken place using the child as an instrument of psychological pressure, but we are talking about an earlier stage, when the child is still only in draft.

The desire to provide for themselves at the expense of children who survive is already more or less adequate excuse Good judgment is always better than self-deception.

The child, like a toy or a game – this version is a consequence of the program of the social life. When a person gets used all the time to chase some goals, then sooner or later, but inevitably, there comes a time when the race is stopped and the person is in a vacuum. Rather, he was always in a vacuum, but only at the time of the stop he clearly understands. The traditional recommendation – have children, here is your purpose in life.

That is, we are talking about the substitution of our lives with the life of the child. The baby is not going to say thank you for it later. Adopt a dog …

The child as a chance to correct your mistakes

The child, as a way to correct your mistakes – also a popular phenomenon. The child is used as an opportunity to live life anew and in a good way or prove his innocence throughout the world. “These will be my kids – I’ll bring them differently,” “That will be my baby, I’ll teach him how to live.”

All this, of course, is also a game of human systems. Once again, the child becomes a victim of parental immaturity and unhappiness.

The child, like the fear of death

The less popular option, but it also takes place. Each parent blended all of these trends, and the more it appeals to the instinct, the less adequate is its self-perception and the more problems will get the child inherited.

An interesting point is that in today’s world there is a “family planning”. That is, a child born not by natural circumstances, but according to plan. Where’s the plan, there is the mind.

So in most cases there are given birth to children with a kind of subtext, which is always determined by the selfish interests of the parents. A child is born is no longer for myself, it always has some plans. The child is a tool. These are the current realities.

A much more honest it would be to have a child “of convenience”, not hiding it. And it turns out that the calculation is always there, but his parents will not admit it. And then, when it comes time to teach a child to perform parental plan, it’s all done under the auspices of the parental love of other well-intentioned things.

Here’s a simple test that you should pass before having children

Are you happy? Right here and now, today, and without any reservations? Are you happy with your life? Are you all right? You do not have unresolved issues? You have no debt? Your life is filled to the brim? You have no place in a hurry?

Only if the answer to all these questions is yes, you can honestly answer the question as to whether you want the child, and this response will be desire of the soul. Otherwise, do not lie yourself with them illusion the illusion that you “just want a child” – everything is very, very difficult. If you do not see your own selfish motives, it does not mean that they are not.

Most of the trouble is that the child does a part of the program to achieve personal happiness – “I would be happy to (a) when I’ll have a child!” .