Steve Pavlina is a maniac, in a good sense and in a bad sense of the word. He makes a very needful job, and this is confirmed by the size of its daily audience. Pavlina is one of the most successful bloggers, if not the most successful. As he describes, his entire income is based on the content that is generated by his blog. I wish to everybody such an income.
Pavlina is a great writer. He can tell with simple words about difficult things.
For the past 17 years he develops qualities like: awareness, courage, energy, compassion, awakening of spiritual strength and total concentration on the present moment. He also encourages his readers to do that.
What’s wrong with him?
Let’s start with the fact that people are different, and one man’s meat is another man’s poison. For example, take a person with a perfect congenital hearing. He devotes himself to music, he lives and dreams with sounds. He is so good, that he can hear every tone of melody and he can write the notes of the party of each instrument in a symphony orchestra. In fact, he’s a genius.
And what happens if he tries to teach music, people without such a gift? I think he would grow impatient quickly, and go crazy and anger, how one can be so blunt.
It turns out that things are visible and tangible for a genius, and may be completely inaccessible to mere mortal.
You cannot teach another person your personal experience, your type of perception and your feelings. Takes to tell it, but it cannot be transferred and be learned.
Now back to Steve Pavlina. The essence of the example is that every author, who takes the liberty to talk about the structure of the human soul, sees the world through a narrow window in his own bell tower.
Formally, Pavlina is not a psychologist at all. He says, he does not hold any consultations, but only writes articles about psychology, about personal and spiritual development. And here he is completely honest with himself and his readers.
For Steve, discipline – is a natural state. But he speaks about it as an achievement, as something that should be attained. However he alone did not reached it! That’s where the trap is. Propensity and ability to self-discipline – it’s not his merit, but it’s a property of his psychotype.
In fact, the self-discipline it did not cost him anything, it’s a gift. However he tries to explain to his readers everything from the position that the same mental attitude can be achieved through training. It is a common misconception of many psychologists – trainers. Pavlina’ recommendations are only suitable for Pavlina himself and people with similar mental unit.
What’s good and obviously for Pavlina – is not necessarily well and is suitable for everyone. I will try to give a couple of tips to simplify matters.
To whom Steve Pavlina is suitable?
As Steve – is extrovert, everything he writes is focused on extroverts. If you have inherent discipline since childhood and you tend to take an active penetrating position, Pavlina’ tips will help you to hone your skills and make a few more steps to the “success“. Go for it!
For extroverts there are virtually no contraindications. One reservation – you need to keep in mind the theory of relativity and to understand, that there are different kind of people, and some recommendations are more likely to harm than help them.
To whom Steve Pavlina is unsuitable?
For the same reason that Steve – is a bright extrovert, not all of its recommendations are useful and applicable for introverts. Widespread mistake that introverts make- is chasing extroverts’ ideals and qualities at the expense of their own nature. Instead of self-development such aspiration leads only to self-destruction.
Therefore, reading Pavlina, and similar authors focused on success through working-hard and self-discipline, introverts need very selectively ignore their recommendations. Otherwise, instead of the next step forward in self-development, you can easily take two steps back.